8 Signs you’re growing in therapy

from a somatic, holistic, decolonial lens

1. You practice leaning into interdependence

You practice asking for support without inner-criticism or collapsing your autonomy. You resonate more with relationships of reciprocity and mutual care. You experience fewer moments of scarcity and comparison, and are cultivating a greater sense of belonging. 

2. You feel anchored in your values

Your values drives your choices and behaviours. You feel less reactive to other people’s beliefs, behaviours or emotions, and more centred in an honest and congruent version of yourself (even amidst your complexities and contradictions).

3. You relate to your body with less urgency

Instead of pushing through discomfort, pain & fatigue, or rushing to avoid, deny or “fix” - you’re cultivating trust in your body’s timing. You pause more often to listen to the wisdom of your body, and the nuanced flow of emotions and sensations.

4. You’re remembering practices that precede pathology

You honour the wisdom that colonial systems devalued. You’re reconnecting with ancestral lineages or community-rooted practices of nurturance, celebration, storytelling, resistance and visioning

5. You allow your nervous system to set the pace

You no longer measure healing by productivity, symptom reduction or linear progress. You feel the edges of what you can hold—and honour them. Without chasing catharsis or breakthroughs, you build capacity at a pace you can integrate. 

6. You understand yourself to be in process

You know yourself as an emerging being, not stagnant, but constantly growing & learning. You begin to trust yourself and your experiences, knowing that you will adapt to navigate the unknown of what comes next. 

7. You experience moments of open fascination

You notice more details in life, you feel moments of engagement with the world- maybe it’s intrigue, curiousity or delight, maybe natural beauty catches your eye more often.

8. You adjust your environment to suit you

You advocate for your needs, and use the tools or adaptations that honour your access —instead of shaping yourself to fit rigid systems not created for your humanness. You’re calling in community that respects your pace, limits, and brilliance.